All About Self LoveMany people repeat their affirmations in the morning to get a boost of self-love for the rest of their day. If at any point you feel yourself lagging in self-love during the day, go ahead and repeat them again. Don’t worry about overdoing it—you’re in no danger of developingtoo much self-love. For so many of us, it’s easy to show kindness, love, and compassion to others—and a totally different story when it comes being as lovely when we talk to ourselves. You don’t care how many Valentine’s Days go by with you being single because you find love and happiness in so many other things.
Practicing self-love means putting your needs - like choosing recovery and working towards sobriety - before your wants. These steps might seem awkward at first, but they'll get easier with practice. As you begin to recognize the thoughts and beliefs that are contributing to your low self-esteem, you can counter them or change the way you think about them. This will help you accept your value as a person. As your self-esteem increases, your confidence and sense of well-being are likely to soar. Low self-esteem can negatively affect virtually every facet of your life, including your relationships, your job and your health.
Every man’s identity is different and that means every man’s interests and hobbies will differ. However, doing your favorite things can help increase your self-esteem and give you a feeling of purpose and increase happiness. Aligning with the idea of self-care, make time each day to do some of the things that make you happiest. Whether that be listening to music, or going for a walk, doing your favorite things regularly can increase your mental health. Participating in brain-stimulating activities, like doing puzzles or writing, can help get the neurons firing and nudge you towards a more positive mood. Although a tall-tailed task to take on, and much easier said than done, tuning out negativity is a great first step to improving self-love, because of the toll a negative mindset can take on your mental health.
Every day, I make an active choice to look in the mirror and see someone I love in its reflection. A few months ago, for the first time in a very, very long time, I looked at myself in the mirror for more than a couple of minutes. I used to cry every time I saw my reflection, so I figured that it would be best for me if I just stopped looking. Every time I looked at my body, all I saw were my flaws. All I saw were the stretch marks I despised, the scars I longed to cover, the features I could never change. Please feel free to share your story tips by emailing
Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read our editorial process to learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy. Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. Unfortunately, these behaviors tend to backfire. Instead of getting the support and encouragement that they need to boost their self-esteem, they end up generating negative reactions from other people. Because they lack confidence in their abilities, people with low self-esteem doubt their ability to achieve success.
You won’t compete with or compare yourself to others. You’ll become an optimistic thinker, and you’ll be willing to get creative and try new things. 74.“Self love—it doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Toxic people cause us to feel wretched and significantly lower the quality of our daily lives. Learning to distance yourself those who hinder your self-growth is a difficult, but absolutely necessary step on your journey of healing. To heal ourselves, it’s vital for us to consciously change our relationships with ourselves, and treat ourselves with compassion and consideration just as we would with a best friend. Doesn’t it make sense to enjoy your own company? A good place to start with befriending yourself is by practicing morning affirmations. Ruby Fremon is a Coach, Catalyst, and Ignitor.
Low self-esteem can make it more difficult to achieve your goals and form healthy, supportive relationships. It can also play a role in the development of certain mental health problems and conditions including anxiety and depression. Loving your life is an important part of loving yourself. If you don’t love your life, that makes it hard to be happy.
Award-winning journalist and speaker Jessica Abo goes all-in on our complicated relationship with social media. She reminds us that our happiness IRL is more important than the way we portray ourselves online, and offers tools to avoid the "compare and despair trap." In my work, I talk a lot about releasing negative thoughts and criticism towards yourself and embracing more loving thoughts. I also talk about how our thoughts create our actions and therefore our lives. But mother can be a very concrete, realistic thing. In a culture dominated by social media, these are the messages that we’re constantly being fed.
We can't keep treating ourselves poorly if we want to grow our self love. You might answer, I'm feeling content, excited, strong, adventurous, resilient, brave, or mellow. Of course, you may also be feeling negative emotions too, but try to note at least one positive thing you're feeling.
It's a very well-developed system, refined over the course of 2,500 years in the Buddhist tradition, but I hasten to add that no religion is required. You also don't need to be able to 'clear your mind' or get rid of all thoughts. It's the noticing of the thoughts we naturally have and then gently bringing our attention back to the moment that seems to bring about the rewiring we're after.
But a better approach, one that will hopefully help reverse these worrying trends, is to cheer them on as they develop the mental habits and strengths that will support them throughout their lives. Regardless of what teens choose to do online, many of our schools are also structured for social comparison. Grading, labeling, and tracking practices don’t necessarily honor the stops, starts, and inevitable mistakes that are a natural part of the learning process. A2018 studyof early adolescents suggests that self-concept plays a central role in emotional well-being. According to the study, a supportive classroom environment and positive social relationships also affect teen well-being—but the impact is indirect.
You have all the love within you already, you just need to learn how to access it and these affirmations are just one way to do so. Enjoy your journey, beautiful, I applaud you for giving yourself the time and space needed to accept and bring more love into your life. Being compassionate about how we affect people in our lives is absolutely part of being healthy as an individual and being a healthy friend, partner, and citizen, Smith says. But we cannot be true friends, partners or citizens if we hide, dismiss, or deny parts of ourselves that think, feel, believe, or want. "If you've experienced abuse or trauma in the past, it may feel impossible to be compassionate for yourself — this is where a trained mental health professional can support and guide you in this process." This is where self-compassion shows up, Smith says.
Like erring, feeling afraid is natural and human. This healthy exercise can really help with your mental health. Interrogating and evaluating your fears helps you to gain clarity and unmask issues in your life that were causing you anxiety.